Monday, December 01, 2008

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Chicago Couple Saves Their First Kiss For the Altar

First_kiss_couple_block I’ve heard a lot of bridal buzz, but this is certainly a first, ladies. Remember our recent story about how Mariah Carey and hubby Nick Cannon waited until they were married to have sex? Well, if you thought that was interesting get a load of this news bite out of Chicago. Over the weekend two abstinence advocates made local news when they kissed for the first time at their wedding! (Talk about practicing what you preach.) It was the kiss heard ‘round the city for locals, and the cutest wedding story we’ve heard in years!

Claudaniel "CD" Fabien, 30, and Melody LaLuz Fabien, 28, are abstinence educators who met in 2006 on a mission trip in Uganda. Melody had made a vow not to date until June 2007, so after the trip they talked on the phone and visited one another until CD moved from Tucson to Chicago in November of 2007. CD proposed in July writing "WYMM" in the sand on a Miami beach. The ceremony was held at the Maranatha World Revival Ministries on the Northwest Side and the guests hollered and cheered when the couple’s lips finally met.

"It was surreal," said CD, after the ceremony. "It was like, my other self came out and said, 'Look dude, you're kissing her!' "

The groom wasn’t the only one overwhelmed by the wow-factor of that moment. Local news stations and paper covered the couple’s big kiss and it was one of the most talked about local weddings in recent months.

"It feels like such a gift," said the new bride. "When you value a kiss, it becomes something of worth."   

photos : John J. Kim/Sun-Times
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1

Here they are in Chicago talking about their honeymoon:

http://www.myfoxchicago.com/myfox/pages/ContentDetail?contentId=8194118

Posted by: Kat
on January 6, 2009 at 3:01 PM

2

This is precious. I think it's ridiculous that people are saying you need to kiss in order to realise if you have chemistry. Plenty of cultures don't even include kissing in their relationships. I have plenty of friends whose parents are very much in love but have never kissed. You see their chemistry in the way they joke with each other or just remember each other's habits.

As for "what if you get to the altar and realise you don't have any chemistry" - that is silly. Chemistry isn't just physical. If you've made it far enough to love everything you guys do together, that kiss will be amazing. Even if it doesn't go perfectly, you bump noses, or it's kind of awkward, you're more likely to laugh about it and still be excited that it's your first kiss. And if that kiss is what "breaks" the relationship or chemistry, then I can't say the connection was really that strong to begin with. You learn by practice, right? They have the rest of their lives to practise with each other, learn from each other. What's the problem?

Posted by: Elizabeth
on December 10, 2008 at 3:12 PM

3

I've known several couples that made the choice not to kiss before their wedding day, and I've not meet one couple yet that regretted it. It's so funny to me that people actually think that "chemistry" has to begin with a physical aspect of a relationship. My fiance and I have kissed, but we are waiting until we are married to have sex, but yet we have experienced a level of intimacy that cannot be explained...even without touching each other. Once you understand that some people choose to base their relationship on a spiritual foundation...and trust me, you can't make a commitment like that unless you are trusting in something higher than yourself, then saving certain things (including kisses) until after marriage makes a lot of sense. The ancient Greek for the word "kiss" actually means "to ignite". It's not weird, or cultish, it should be respected and admired. I applaud them for their convictions and committment to each other.

Posted by: Nicole
on December 9, 2008 at 10:12 AM

4

my fiance and I are also waiting until the altar to kiss, and trust me, the chemistry is there! Love is pateint, love is kind, and love is also TEMPERATE (or self-control). When you know that God has brought you together, you don't have to worry about whether or not you chose the right one, God's choice is the best!

Posted by: Liz
on December 8, 2008 at 11:12 AM

5

You know what, it may not be how everyone goes about their relationship but it works for this couple! Good for them, they found love and happiness with each other, and isn't that what's really important!

Posted by: Janelle
on December 4, 2008 at 9:12 PM

6

What if you get to the alter and kiss, then you realize the chemistry is not there? Isn't that something for someone to figure out before they commit the Rest of Their Lives to eachother? I give them kudos for being so patient and wish them the best, but come on... I had to kiss a few frogs to find a prince. :)

Posted by: Adriane
on December 3, 2008 at 11:12 PM

7

That is rediculous.

Posted by: Adriane
on December 3, 2008 at 11:12 PM

8

Im sorry but i think this is completely stupid...sex i can understand but a kiss? you must be loaded with way to many morals to tell someone you wont kiss them unless you get married. Hey then again if their happy about the decision, then why not, but I think its pretty ridiculous and weird, im religious but to me this seems like some kind of cult thing or I wonder what religion they practice

Posted by: Carrie
on December 3, 2008 at 5:12 PM

9

I think this is just silly. How on earth can you be with someone and not kiss them? This bride should have become a nun!

Posted by: Cindy
on December 3, 2008 at 1:12 PM

10

THat's really good for them that they have such strong will power...but not even a kiss a marriage is about compatibility in all aspects even romantically it's all good if you want to wait for the big night to "do it" but not even a kiss! When I first kissed my fiance i felt butterflies and I thought he is the one I'm going to marry...that was 5 years ago. I'm sorry but you wouldn't buy a car without test driving it would you??

Posted by: Amanda
on December 3, 2008 at 9:12 AM

11

I was in a wedding in Aug. and the couple also saved their first kiss for their wedding. It was precious! ;)

Posted by: Heather
on December 3, 2008 at 7:12 AM

12

I think this is a great example of respecting our bodies as the temple that God gave us. While I agree that you do not have to wait to kiss, my fiance and I have been together over 4.5 years and have definetly kissed, i can value what this means to the couple. I am a person who believes that sex is not the only God wanted us to wait on but I know that i have not followed my convictions either. I am so glad to hear so many women expressing how important this is.

Posted by: Holly
on December 2, 2008 at 10:12 PM

13

Ummm, this is not a story. At the church I used to attend not a single couple kissed before their wedding day. It is a huge church with thousands of people attending. Couples did not kiss hold hands hug nothing. No touching whatsoever. You didn't even go on a date alone until you were engaged. so how did this story even make the news???

Posted by: Michelle
on December 2, 2008 at 8:12 PM

14

I think it is wonderful!!! I'm happy for the two! They must be really strong willed! =] I couldn't wait, but I guess everyone does it differently!

Posted by: Shanna
on December 2, 2008 at 4:12 PM

15

um, never kissed? its a cute story, but how can you plan forever when you don't even know how they kiss? I don't think this should be encouraged, chemistry is a major part of a marriage and i don't think God is going to be impressed by never having kissed.

Posted by: rachel
on December 2, 2008 at 4:12 PM

16

um, never kissed? its a cute story, but how can you plan forever when you don't even know how they kiss? I don't think this should be encouraged, chemistry is a major part of a marriage and i don't think God is going to be impressed by never having kissed.

Posted by: rachel
on December 2, 2008 at 4:12 PM

17

What a sweet story and totally crazy that it was their first kiss together!

Well ever since my fiance proposed to me wit a gorgeous diamond engagement ring from www.idonowidont.com when we kiss down the aisle it will be just as special as if it was our first kiss!

They look like such a sweet couple and I respect their commitment to each other to have waited for their special day to share the kiss!

Posted by: Cheryl
on December 2, 2008 at 3:12 PM

18

My husband-to-be and I have both decided that our first kiss on the lips will be on our wedding day. We are both SO excited! Not only are both of us virgins, but neither of us has ever kissed anyone else! God's way is the best way. I am so glad that I waited for him, and that he has waited for me too. It will make our wedding day so much more special with our first kiss, and our wedding night so much better with the giving of our virginity.

Posted by: April
on December 2, 2008 at 1:12 PM

19

This is absolutely beautiful!!!
I bet that first kiss was powerful!

Posted by: Hilary
on December 2, 2008 at 1:12 PM

20

What a beautiful story!!! My Fiance and I have kissed but we're not having any sex until we're married. I think that is a beautiful gift to share with eachother when you're married. Not to mention it has built our relationship strong. We have learned to communicate and have an intimate relationship with out having sex. That is a strong foundation to build a marriage on and it increases the chance for a successful marriage. I don't worry about being sexually compatible because we have the rest of our lives to fix any little problems that shouldn't brake our relationship it should be more fun!

Posted by: Les
on December 2, 2008 at 1:12 PM

21

We are waiting until our wedding night for sex, but we didn't wait to kiss. I respect this couple for waiting, since I know realize just how hard it can be. Congratulations to the happy couple!

Posted by: Chris
on December 2, 2008 at 1:12 PM

22

I think its amazing what this couple did. Yes it may not be for everyone but what an awesome gift for your spouse on that day. My fiance and I are waiting to have sex until were married and people tell us that by not having sex you'll ruin your wedding night because it won't be any good. But we have the rest of our lives to figure it out, thats the fun of it. :) Everyone else thats waiting, keep up the good work and don't let anyone tell you you shouldn't!

Posted by: Michelle
on December 2, 2008 at 12:12 PM

23

Aww this is such a sweet story. I can't imagine that though! My fiance and I have been together for 6 years, engaged for 5.5 of those 6 and I would have gone CRAZY!

Such a cute story though congrats to them!

Posted by: Melanie
on December 2, 2008 at 12:12 PM

24

Wow. Just.... Wow. I hope they're physically compatible!
There's no way I could have waited... My first kiss with my fiancee was absolutely amazing, and a very private thing... I don't want to have my first anything in front of a crowd! Especially since I still lose my legs after a really good kiss.

Posted by: Erica
on December 2, 2008 at 12:12 PM

25

I think this is a wonderful story, and to each his/her own. I had always intended to wait, as had my fiancee, but what we discovered with our relationship was that waiting for the right person can be as important as waiting for the right moment, whether that's after you tie the knot or before. We are both each other's first's and only's, and if I could go back and do it all over again, I'd do the same thing. I value everyone's right to choose, and I applaud those who value waiting as much or more than the act. It can make the consummation of love sweeter. Cudos to those who follow their hearts.

Posted by: Anika
on December 2, 2008 at 11:12 AM

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