Wednesday, November 19, 2008

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Pre-Marital Sex: Nick and Mariah Waited, Would You?

Mariahnickelleshoot To go along with the recent abstinence craze (shout out to Miley Cyrus and The Jonas Brothers), London’s Daily Mirror reported earlier this month that newlyweds Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon waited until they were married to have sex. Mariah told the newspaper that she and Nick “share similar beliefs” so this was the natural choice.

The couple didn’t have to wait too long - they wed after dating for only two months and they just celebrated their six-month anniversary. (For which Nick gifted his lady-love with diamonds -- no surprise there!)

But back to the issue of abstinence before marriage. First, do you believe Mariah, or do you think she’s full of it? Second, does such a pact have much "meaning" if you get married in less than two months? Just asking! I want to hear your thoughts ladies.

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I wouldnt go by Mariah or Nick because 2 months is nothing, I want to talk to someone that has dated a person for a year or more with no sex.

Posted by: Rosanne
on June 22, 2009 at 3:06 PM

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My fiance is the only person I've been with and he's going to be the only person I'm with anyway. I always thought I'd wait until marriage but that didn't end up happening with him because we now live together. I feel bad about it because I'm Christian but we're getting married anyway so it's not the end of the world.

Posted by: bella
on June 16, 2009 at 4:06 PM

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My fiance and I have been together for 2 years as of June 9th. We were just engaged in January and are waiting for our wedding night as well. Here's for all of those reading saying, "Sure! All of these women are lying", well, we live together too and have NEVER given into premarital sex. We are both Christians and we have seperate bedrooms. Only by God's grace and the gift of patience are we able to do this. From what most of my friends and even my sister have said when we first started dating, "You should test drive before you buy", I find that not only against our beliefs, but tacky. I understand that everyone is different, but so are we and people respect us more since they know this and now we're engaged. He and I have a spiritual bond with each other and to God that I've never shared with any other man. I know our wedding night will be magical.

Posted by: Future Mrs
on June 11, 2009 at 10:06 AM

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i am really impressed waiting is the best
thing to do.because no hurt is attage and mutual respect exist.i and my new found love are waiting pls wait there is no regret in waiting only endless joy.

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Posted by: kneefesnogs
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My fiance and I are waiting to have sex until we are married as well. It is one of the hardest and most aggravating challenges we have ever experienced; it has been said that my fiance and my chemistry and passion is extremely obvious and how amazing our sex must be. We have to reply that we are waiting to have sex, and the 100% most said reply is, "How are you doing that?!!! There is no way I could do that!" It is very difficult when you are ready to experience that with the person you love the most, but it is not impossible. Due to our religious beliefs and the way we were raised, it has always been engrained in our heads that it is important to wait. All I know is, I cannot WAIT for my wedding night! It's going to be incredible!

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Posted by: stusesniche
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My Fiance and I have been together in a serious relationship for almost 6 years. We're both 21, and have admitted to both wanting to have sex since we were 16! (We first met each other when we were 12) I'm proud to say we are both virgins, and we have no doubt in our mind that we will have amazing sex on our wedding night, and not a day before.
Am I saying its easy? HECK...NO. It gets hard, but we both have a relationship with God and close christian friends who all believe that marriages do better when sex does not enter the relationship until AFTER marriage.
We're waiting, and very proud of it. If you are truly in love with a person, and waiting is important to you, you will find the will and the way to do so. It's going to be sooo worth it and one HOT night! :)

Posted by: Dana Hall
on February 16, 2009 at 5:02 PM

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My husband and I waited till we got married to have sex we were both virgins. He was 21 and I was 24. In a day and age were people have no self control and just feed their desires willingly and whenever they wanted it was a really challenge not to make love.

It was worth the wait our marriage going on 4 years is strong and I think that was one of the most important factors to attribute to it. He respected me and thought I was worth the wait and my desire for him grew till we got married. Then when we did get married man it was surreal and what a honeymoon was suppose to be hot and heavy and unforgettable not just a vacation to a foreign country.
Wait its 100% worth it no matter what people say!!!

Posted by: yvette
on February 13, 2009 at 3:02 PM

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Hi!
I am writing from Chile, South America.
Waiting was something really popular here until 10 years ago. On these days is much more harder to find couples which would like to do this.

I think is really amazing to wait for the love of your life to know and experience sex just with him, so it would be something just the both of you share. I always had the dream that I would have sex for love and in my wedding night.

Well, I know it is difficult, my boyfriend and I have spent 5 years together. We both were virgins when we start dating (19 years old) and we are planing to marry in one more year (we are still students) so some things happened during this time... But we still did not make love! I think waiting is one of the best things you can do for a couple that really belives in love, as a way of giving their lives to each other, an for who belives that this promess is forever. This will give sex importance and sense of intimacy, unity and love you would only share in your world together.

Posted by: Antonia
on January 10, 2009 at 9:01 AM

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My fiance and I have been together for 6 years now. I can't speak for everyone but I can share my experience. When we met we were both virgins. My reason for being a virgin is I wanted to wait for the right person. He grew up more religious and wanted to wait for marriage. We both agreed that we would take the next step until our relationship was stronger. As time passed we got to know each other better and decided that moving in would be helpful to our commitment as a couple. He never pressured me and I respected his views. One day we both just knew that we loved each other so much, had gone through so many ups and downs, and we were still there for each other. Nature took it's course and neither of us has regreted that wonderful experience we shared for the first time. Many will look upon us as sinners for not waiting till marriage and others might ask what took us so long. All I can say is God brought this amazing, generous, caring, and loving man into my life and I will never regret any moment we have shared together. We have been blessed and are getting married but for all the right reasons. Marriage is more than compatibilty in the bed or teachings we recieve in Sunday School. These things might help but won't make a marriage last. So wether you choose to wait or not make sure that your focus is on spending your life with a mate that will be there for you in the most difficult and challenging times. You will find many that will be there in goodtimes but too few that want to stick around for the bad days. Best wishes!

Posted by: eazo
on December 31, 2008 at 12:12 PM

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Waiting til marriage is the safest bet there is and the Bible gives us some great reason why we should wait. I try my best as a "Christian" to imitate Christ. doing what the Bible says has been helpful and life-changing in other ways, so I would do the same for abstaining.

Posted by: Tiana
on December 26, 2008 at 9:12 PM

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My fiance and I have been together for two years and waited about a year to have sex. I am also a Christian...and I've had kind of mixed emotions about it since then. While I LOVED having sex with him, I'm also proud of our decision to abstain during the engagement period. I absolutely admire anyone who waits. I can see both sides of the argument, and I think waiting adds an anticipation and a depth to the relationship that just jumping into bed doesn't.

Posted by: Brittany
on December 23, 2008 at 11:12 PM

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I think it's silly to wait. If you love someone and you know you love them, then what's the problem? I'm having sex with my boyfriend, we've been together 3 years and since both of us have been married before (and one was a really really bad marriage) we see no point in moving to that step quickly, if ever.
We are committed to each other and in a monogomous relationship. Sex is enjoyable and very personal for both of us. We don't need a certificate or a priest to tell us that we're now committed for all time. We already know that, and that's what counts.

Posted by: Arya
on December 10, 2008 at 1:12 PM

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Since my fiance and I are not religious in any way and living together, there is no reason to wait. I have my own beliefs about monogamy and not spreading stds, but we are the only people we are sleeping with and therefore it isn't a problem. I do respect those who wait for religious reasons... but I dont think it is common to wait. Just about every one I know is sleeping with their long-time significant other, so I find it hard to believe some of the people on here...

Posted by: Michelle
on December 10, 2008 at 12:12 PM

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I agree with Samantha, my fiance and I won't know if we're good or not, because we have nothing to compare it to! That is my choice and I have no worries. No one is attacking you for your beliefs. My God doesn't want me to fail, but I know I can't succeed in such a difficult task of purity without Him.

Posted by: Joy
on December 2, 2008 at 3:12 PM

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I understand that it is very important to some people that they not have sex until they're married, I see nothing wrong with that. I don't think people are thinking clearly if they think they should have sex before marriage to see if they are compatable. What a horrible way to choose your life partner. As for me, I am 22 years old, an ex-wife, a fiance, and a mother of 3, only the eldest is from my previous marriage, the other two with my fiance. I dont feel we have cursed our marriage or relationship what so ever. Neither of us were virgins when we met and it never bothered either of us. I dont feel guilty and have no regrets.

Posted by: Victoria
on December 2, 2008 at 3:12 PM

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I have to disagree with the idea that 'you should have sex before marriage to see if you're compatible'. It's a shame if compatibility is determined by how good you are.
First of all, if you've never had sex before you don't know if your partner is 'good' or 'bad' in bed - because he's all you know. And that's a special thing. Sex is wholeness, it's oneness and to 'try it out' with other people to see how they fit is a shallow excuse for compatibility.

Does he hold you when you're doing the Ugly Cry, reminiscing over your childhood regrets?
Does he talk to you about his favourite childhood traditions?
Do you know each other inside and out relationally?

Humans were intended to live relationally. That means, in community, in relationship, with all people. Marriage is an expression of that and when youa re married, you're saying to the world "WE HAVE SEX AND WE'RE PROUD OF IT!". When you're not married, it's taboo, it's iffy, to let people know, and there's always the risk that your fling won't last. What is inherently relational about that? I think it's so great when you can be open and share with the world about who you are with.

I'm proud to say I'll be a married woman in 8 months yesterday and I'll be a virgin until 8 months yesterday.. night.

Posted by: Samantha
on December 2, 2008 at 10:12 AM

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You can't really know how compatible you are with someone until you live with them and sleep with them. No relationship will last if you do not have a good sexual relationship, so I'd suggest trying it out before you make a lifetime commitment. The divorce rate is so high because people jump into marriage without really knowing what they are getting into. Religion doesn't help the matter by calling you an evil sinner for having a NATURAL and biological urge to do something, but churches sure do appreciate your patronage and donations! What kind of god would want you to lead a miserable guilt-ridden life? Sorry, but I think anyone who chooses this is setting themselves up for failure..

Posted by: Amy
on December 2, 2008 at 9:12 AM

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my fiance and i have been together 4+ years. we are both virgins and are waiting until our wedding night to consummate our marriage. i am deeply religious and both of us adhere to a strong moral code, so this is natural for us. whenever we feel tempted or wonder why we shouldn't just sleep together, we think about how we would feel if our kids did that. how can we tell our kids in the future that they can't have sex before marriage if we did just that. i would never [and can't] lie, so we are not giving ourselves the opportunity to be hypocrites

Posted by: katie
on December 2, 2008 at 8:12 AM

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I've actually known my husband for 9 years, his cousin is my best-friend. We met back in high school and he is TRULY the best man that I have ever known in my life. We slept together before we were married and both of us felt guilty and were even scared for eachother and for ourselves. We felt that we may lose eachother, however, I prayed to God for an answer. I told him that I didn't believe that I could stop making love to my then fiance and that I was afraid of the consequences and I asked him for help. Shortly therafter we were married in a civil ceremony. While I can't answer for other people because as it is said in the bible you must remove the beam from your own eye before you can remove the speck from your brother's. We now feel better about ourselves and more free to enjoy one another and whether it was because of what we'd been taught or because of God I do believe that my husband and I are happier and more contented and comfortable then we were.

Posted by: Sidonie
on November 30, 2008 at 1:11 AM

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I am 28, and will be 29 when my fiance (44) & I get married next May. Neither
of us are virgins, in fact my fiance has been married once before. The blessing
we have is that we are free from our pasts and are so excited for our new life together.
We are spending this time preparing for our marriage: mentally, spiritually, and
physically. We have been together for almost two years, and we know that we are
physically compatible: our chemistry and drive for one another are amazing; we just
dont have sex! It is very hard sometimes (pun intended) but we know it will be SO
worth it- we have an amazing relationship that is centered on Christ and we are
honoring Him in the decision to wait until we are married, and experience love-making
just as it was intended to be. Neither of us have ever had this kind of a relationship.
Its really special, and I wish more people would experience such a blessing. Unfortunately
people don't think its possible to abstain or maybe that since they've already
"gone there" that there's no sense in going back.

To all of you "born again" virgins: be encouraged and stay strong!


Posted by: sarah
on November 29, 2008 at 2:11 PM

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I'm 20 and my fiance is 21. We were both virgins when we met and thought it was important that we wait until we were married, mostly because we only wanted to have sex with each other. However, we have had sex already and I'm glad to say it was nice we didn't wait. The way we look at it, marriage is mostly a legal bonding of two people and if it weren't for the fact that we were young and didn't have money, we would have been married by now! Yes, marriage is also a bonding between two people who love each other, but we know that's not it because homosexuals are not allowed to marry even though they love each other.

I'm glad we didn't wait because it strengthened our bond and if God wants to look down on me for something he GAVE US, then it's not a God I want to believe in anyway.

Posted by: Katie
on November 28, 2008 at 10:11 PM

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